I know I am not a bobblehead and neither are my friends.  Why does it seem lately that some of them are acting like bobbleheads?  If you know that 1+1=2, why would you let your boyfriend or husband tell you that it’s 3 and you just go along with the okey doke?  These are questions I’m asking myself recently. 

Some of my close friends have been “losing their voices”.  They don’t know how and when to speak up for themselves.   They’re letting situations happen that they would never have allowed themselves to be in before.   I’m watching them change into submissive versions of themselves and it’s truly painful to watch.  

I’ve mentioned before that I’m divorced and I’m fine with that.  I wouldn’t want to stay married in a situation I’m not happy or satisfied with just to be able to say I’m married.   Or worse yet, just so I didn’t have to do the work of uncoupling.   I’m freer more now than I ever was before and I use my words – all of them!   I no longer sit quietly and allow myself to be disrespected.  I speak up and voice what has disturbed my peace.   No need to bottle up the words inside and hope that a person realizes I’m angry because I’m not saying anything. During my marriage, my sitting quietly meant everything was fine and dandy therefore nothing changed.

Relationships and marriage should be a give and take.  Both parties are supposed to do both.  If one is always giving and the other is always taking, there’s a problem.  And you don’t get anywhere if you can’t communicate and say what is wrong. But then again, what do I know?  I’m single and use my words.

Just saying……………….